Be A Man: The Violence Society Ignores
About this ebook
Be a Man is more than a story; it is a profound exploration of the human capacity for resilience. Through the narrative of Curtis, Millie, and Daniel, this book delves into the complex, often silent struggles of those trapped in the cycle of domestic violence. While their journey highlights the unique challenges faced by male survivors, the themes of trauma, reclamation, and identity speak to the universal need for safety and autonomy.
By weaving a poignant narrative with insightful psychological analysis, this book offers a roadmap for anyone navigating the aftermath of abuse. It explores how we can move from the survival-based "shell" we build for protection to a more authentic, integrated life.
This book is written for:
Those currently experiencing domestic violence: You are not alone, and there is a path forward.
It is also written for:
Survivors: A guide to understanding your journey and finding meaning in your recovery.
Friends and Allies: Tools to better support those you love.
Professionals and Advocates: A deeply researched look at the intersection of psychology, trauma, and mythic storytelling.
Grounded in survivor accounts, statistical data, and clinical research, Be a Man provides not only a story of hope but practical "next steps" and essential resources to help you bridge the gap between where you are and where you deserve to be.
**Important Note:** This book is a work of narrative and psychological synthesis based on research and survivor experience. It is not a substitute for professional therapy or crisis intervention. If you are experiencing domestic violence, please consult with qualified professionals for support tailored to your specific situation.
If you or someone you know is in immediate danger, please contact your local emergency services or the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) or text "START" to 88788.
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About the author
Tiffany Solter, PhD is a mental health professional, educator, advocate, and lifelong seeker of magic whose writing explores the boundaries between life, death, justice, and the profound connections that define us. Born into a family of mountain people spanning Wyoming and Colorado, she grew up shaped, largely, by two grandmothers who taught her, one through train journeys across the West, the other chasing shooting stars across the plains, that anything is possible.
A survivor of a near-death experience in 1996, Solter spent decades integrating what she encountered in that "warm place where light is everything" into a life of healing work, academic achievement, and fierce advocacy. She holds a doctorate with a dissertation on grace and recovery, and has worked alongside peer counselors, nurses, and mental health teams she considers among the most transformative teachers of her life.
Her advocacy voice is unflinching and deeply personal. In "Be a Man": The Violence Society Ignores, Solter turns her clinical expertise and lived experience toward a crisis our culture has long refused to see: domestic violence against men. Drawing on research, survivor accounts, and her own family history, she challenges the archetypal and institutional blind spots that leave male victims invisible, unbelieved, and without adequate resources. The book is equal parts gripping fiction, Jungian psychological analysis, and practical call to action. It is complete with resource guides for survivors, supporters, military families, and children. It is the work of someone who has sat in clinical rooms with these men, loved them as family, and refused to stay silent.
She lives in what she calls Camelot, a home she and her husband Jeff manifested in childhood whispers, surrounded by family, familiars, motorcycles, and what she simply calls the magic.
Between Worlds is her memoir. "Be a Man" is her battle cry.
