The Lifestyle: A Look at the Erotic Rites of Swingers

Wow! This is a very important book. I never would have guessed that before I read it, but it made an enormous difference in my understanding of the opposite sex, and the contemporary reality of sexual relationships. Viable alternatives to the traditional or conventional monogamous marriage, and the ethical rules of those alternatives, including but not limited to swinging, are brought to light and given fair treatment. Apparently, we are in the mist of another historical sexual revolution that I wasn't even aware of it, due to its secret (underground) nature. However, one point on which I cannot completely agree with the author is on the ethics of former President Bill Clinton's secret affair with a certain Whitehouse intern. The book paints that affair as an example of a sort of swinging relationship, since Bill was married and it was consensual between the participants (excluding HIllary). However, given that HIllary did not give her fully informed consent to that extra marital affair, it clearly violated the standards of the ethical swinger. It is claimed that no harm was done until that secret affair was publicly outed by Kenneth Starr, but that obviously ingores the potentially excruciating psychological and physical pain that adultery (a SECRET and extramarital affair without the consent of the other spouse) may cause. According to a recent scientific study, a breakup can cause physical pain comparable to scalding hot coffee, and adultery may be comparable in its consequences to the welfare of the excluded spouse (google "physical pain of breaking up").