Drawing on grandmothers’ own words, Why Grandmothers Matter describes the experience of having grandchildren across many cultures, and discusses the sometimes delicate relationships between grandmother, parent-child and grandchild. This warm and thoughtful book has much to teach us about family dynamics and the role grandmothers play in wider society, and will be valuable for parents as well as grandmothers when they enter into a new phase of family life.
Naomi Stadlen, who died June 2025, aged 82, worked as an existential psychotherapist in private practice, specialising in seeing mothers and parent-couples. She taught and supervised at the New School of Psychotherapy and Counselling and ran Mothers Talking, a weekly discussion group, for many years. Her books on motherhood have been hugely popular. Further details at www.naomistadlen.com
"Naomi’s books on motherhood… are full of simple and profound points I had not thought of, and I find them fascinating." Hilary Mantel
Her books are:
What Mothers Do – especially when it looks like nothing (2004)
How Mothers Love – and how relationships are born (2011)
What Mothers Learn – without being taught (2020)
Why Grandmothers Matter (2023)
A Grand Quarrel (2025)