Twenty Things Adopted Kids Wish Their Adoptive Parents Knew
Oct 2009 Ā· Sold by Delta
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"Birthdays may be difficult for me."
"I want you to take the initiative in opening conversations about my birth family."
"When I act out my fears in obnoxious ways, please hang in there with me."
"I am afraid you will abandon me."
The voices of adopted children are poignant, questioning. And they tell a familiar story of loss, fear, and hope. This extraordinary book, written by a woman who was adopted herself, gives voice to children's unspoken concerns, and shows adoptive parents how to free their kids from feelings of fear, abandonment, and shame.
With warmth and candor, Sherrie Eldridge reveals the twenty complex emotional issues you must understand to nurture the child you love--that he must grieve his loss now if he is to receive love fully in the future--that she needs honest information about her birth family no matter how painful the details may be--and that although he may choose to search for his birth family, he will always rely on you to be his parents.
Filled with powerful insights from children, parents, and experts in the field, plus practical strategies and case histories that will ring true for every adoptive family, Twenty Things Adopted Kids Wish Their Adoptive Parents Knew is an invaluable guide to the complex emotions that take up residence within the heart of the adopted child--and within the adoptive home.
"I want you to take the initiative in opening conversations about my birth family."
"When I act out my fears in obnoxious ways, please hang in there with me."
"I am afraid you will abandon me."
The voices of adopted children are poignant, questioning. And they tell a familiar story of loss, fear, and hope. This extraordinary book, written by a woman who was adopted herself, gives voice to children's unspoken concerns, and shows adoptive parents how to free their kids from feelings of fear, abandonment, and shame.
With warmth and candor, Sherrie Eldridge reveals the twenty complex emotional issues you must understand to nurture the child you love--that he must grieve his loss now if he is to receive love fully in the future--that she needs honest information about her birth family no matter how painful the details may be--and that although he may choose to search for his birth family, he will always rely on you to be his parents.
Filled with powerful insights from children, parents, and experts in the field, plus practical strategies and case histories that will ring true for every adoptive family, Twenty Things Adopted Kids Wish Their Adoptive Parents Knew is an invaluable guide to the complex emotions that take up residence within the heart of the adopted child--and within the adoptive home.
"Birthdays may be difficult for me."
"I want you to take the initiative in opening conversations about my birth family."
"When I act out my fears in obnoxious ways, please hang in there with me."
"I am afraid you will abandon me."
The voices of adopted children are poignant, questioning. And ...
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November 18, 2010
Not impressed. The use of the words "most", "many", "almost all", etc. indicate that Eldridge used personal feelings and some anecdotal data to write her book. While these feeling may be true for her, they are not necessarily true for "almost all", "most", or even "many" adoptees. I don't see any qualifications, save the fact that she was adopted herself.
I'm sorry but I'm not buying the whole New Age, pre-birth bonding stuff following someone around for the rest of their life.
Frankly, the "20 Things" could apply to bio as well as adopted children. After all, what child doesn't act out in obnoxious ways or isn't afraid of abandonment?
I'd have much rather seen real (not anecdotal) data, the number of adoptees in any studies, etc. I'm sure she's made a ton of money off this book, since some adoptive parents will buy anything.
It's a decent read and there is some valid information but I would primarily read it as a sort of journal of Eldridge's feelings and not a true, scientific study or even non-scientific study of typical adoptees.
Sarah Gilpin
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September 11, 2022
I loved this book and cried in certain parts of it. Very relatable and impactful. The author references two of my favorite authors, Dr. Cloud and Townsend. Even better.
Merry Me
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About the author
Sherrie Eldridge was adopted herself, and she uses many personal anecdotes to help illustrate the themes of this book. She formed an organization, Jewel Among Jewels Adoption Network, Inc., which helps educate people about the unique needs of the adopted child and publishes a quarterly newsletter, Jewel Among Jewels Adoption News. She lives with her husband in Indianapolis.
Sherrie Eldridge was adopted herself, and she uses many personal anecdotes to help illustrate the themes of this book. She formed an organization, Jewel Among Jewels Adoption Network, Inc., which helps educate people about the unique needs of the adopted child and publishes a quarterly newsletter...
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