The Three Desires: Reshaping the Connection, Intimacy, and Teamwork in Your Marriage

 
Too often, married couples find themselves growing apart after the honeymoon dies down. They stop feeling like their own desires are seen and honored, begin to resent their spouse’s differing interests, and stop meeting each other’s needs in their quest for happiness. It shouldn’t be this way, but it happens to many couples—from newlyweds to empty-nesters.

Relationship coach Christa Hardin helps couples to achieve their own personal deepest longings for love while honoring one another’s hopes and ideals in The Three Desires: Reshaping the Connection, Intimacy, and Teamwork in Your Marriage. 

Christa explains that people enter romantic relationships hoping to have three primary needs met:

• The self-preservation desire for safety, order, and wellness

• The sexual desire for attracting one another and merging with intimacy

• The social desire for attunement, connection, and purpose 

In an expedition that takes readers far beyond encouragement and inspiration, Hardin offers hard and fast tools developed through her popular Enneagram + Marriage programs, including resource-rich appendices that include a Three Desires Tracking Chart, Sequencing Tools, 10-Minute Practices for Blind Spots, Conversation Activities, Attachment Styles Guide, and a Marriage-Based Enneagram Assessment.

These desires show up differently in each of us, depending on many factors such as one’s Enneagram type or family upbringing. But Christa offers assurance that it’s possible for couples to meet these needs in a balanced, integrative, and meaningful way, bringing a culture of appreciation and fulfillment to their relationship and greater good to the world.