Win Hearts Not Arguments: Turning Conflicts into Connection

Why? Because most of us spend our lives solving the wrong problem.

In Win Hearts, Not Arguments, Dr. Abiodun Coker reveals the unseen dynamic behind every recurring conflict; at home, at work, and within ourselves. Drawing on science, emotional intelligence, and biblical wisdom, he introduces the HEART Model -a transformative framework that turns arguments into opportunities for connection.

Through vivid examples of everyday disagreements -such as spouses clashing over money to colleagues debating deadlines -Dr. Coker shows how conflict is not proof of incompatibility but a mirror reflecting unspoken needs, fears, and values. You will learn how to:

Recognize the difference between symptom problems and heart problems

Shift from defensiveness to curiosity when tension rises

Build emotional safety that encourages honesty and empathy

Transform recurring battles into bridges of understanding

Rewire your brain for peace, not proof

This book is not about avoiding conflict but about redeeming it. When you look beyond the illusion of who is "right," you will discover what truly matters: connection, growth, and lasting harmony.

Stop trying to win arguments. Start learning to understand hearts. Conflict does not have to end in chaos; it can end in a deeper connection.