Shameful Silence: What You Don't Know About Domestic Violence

Society has a blind spot―and one in three men are paying the price.

Millions of men experience domestic abuse. Yet their suffering is routinely dismissed, minimized, or outright denied. Trapped by shame, stigma, and cultural myths about masculinity, they endure abuse in silence. Often, they lack the language to describe their experiences and face systems unwilling to protect them.

In Shameful Silence, human rights attorney Alexandra Lozano exposes the hidden epidemic of male domestic abuse. With unflinching honesty, legal precision, and deep compassion, Lozano draws on seventeen years of frontline experience to advocate for vulnerable individuals in complex legal systems. She reveals a vital truth few confront: abuse can devastate without leaving bruises.

Through survivor accounts and rigorous research, this book reveals sophisticated, often invisible tactics used against men, including gaslighting, financial control, parental alienation, false allegations, and using custody battles and immigration status as weapons. These abuses leave no visible scars yet dismantle identity, isolate victims, and destroy lives.

Blending legal insight, psychological research, and deeply human storytelling, Shameful Silence challenges entrenched stereotypes about victimhood and masculinity. Lozano reframes strength not as silence but as truth. She offers listeners clarity and validation that so many male survivors have never received.