Guilt is often the heaviest thing you carry into a parent's room. It is there when you leave too early, when you stay too long, when you lose your temper, when you feel relief, when you live too far away, or when you live too close. This book does something unusual: it takes carer guilt seriously without turning it into another job to do. Henrietta Melbury Mainwaring, a writer on eldercare, draws on the mainstream consensus of clinicians and the real testimony of carers to help you untangle the knot of anxious thoughts, rueful comparisons, and old family voices that make up guilt - and tells you plainly how to tell the difference between the guilt that hurts and the guilt that warns you something is wrong. With honest chapters on relief, distance, siblings, work, and the death of a parent, and practical exercises for the hard moments, it will help you find a steadier, kinder place to stand with your parent, and with yourself. Part of The Caring for a Parent Library.
Guilt is often the heaviest thing you carry into a parent's room. It is there when you leave too early, when you stay too long, when you lose your temper, when you feel relief, when you live too far away, or when you live too close. This book does something unusual: it takes carer guilt seriously...