Watching your child's birth tear through the person you love—or seeing your baby struggle, or feeling totally powerless—can leave a mark you didn't expect. You may be back at work, holding the baby, 'fine,' while images and sounds loop in your head. This book names what that is: birth trauma in fathers. It is not about comparing pain or taking anything away from your partner. It is about you getting your life back. You will learn how to identify your own flashbacks and triggers, what to say when someone asks 'are you okay?', and how to support your family while actually supporting yourself. It covers the first hours, the days, and the months after; how to find a therapist who treats trauma; how to talk to your partner without making it her job to fix you; and what to do if avoidance, anger, or sleeplessness are running the show. Written by a parenting writer who has sat with fathers in this exact place, it is direct, practical, and free of guilt. Part of The New Father Library.
Watching your child's birth tear through the person you love—or seeing your baby struggle, or feeling totally powerless—can leave a mark you didn't expect. You may be back at work, holding the baby, 'fine,' while images and sounds loop in your head. This book names what that is: birth trauma in f...